Life can be hard for everyone. We all face adversity, and that’s the one constant that won’t go away. From birth to death, it’s guaranteed you will have adversity in your life. Some, more than others – and only some adversity can be “solved” with money. Sounds harsh, but its true. So how can we start, continue and be successful as a home business owner when we face adversity?
If you are now facing a challenging time in your life, I’m sorry. I hope and pray that regardless of your problem, you get through it and I wish hope, love, support from your family and friends and that you get great guidance to get through your tough time.
I’ve had my share of adversity. I’ve gone through death of a loved one, a car accident, almost-foreclosure, family strife, job loss, loneliness, depression, and bullying (when I was a child) to name a few. That doesn’t include daily life challenges that are super common like being a good communicator, a wife, mother, time management, finances/budget… you name it! Let’s just say that I’m no stranger to adversity. None of us are! Like many others, I’ve gotten through some problems better than others. Through it all, I’ve relied on God, family, friends and mentors to get me through. Please don’t get me wrong – I don’t mean to make my life sound horrible! In between all of this adversity, there has been plenty of love, good times, laughter, friendships, successes and fun. And part of the reason that I can smile every day is because I work on growing myself so that I am bigger than my problems on a daily basis. Here are some tips that can help you overcome your struggles so you can focus on your business, family, and friends (not necessarily in that order!).
Get Help Immediately
This one is going to be obvious, but I have to say it: triage your problems – that’s the first step. Tackle the ones that are immediate, life threatening or imminent. Go or take your loved one to an emergency room or to see a doctor. Call that lawyer. Call a support number to help you through depression or drug addiction for yourself or your loved one. When you have an immediate pressing issue that needs to be worked through, you cannot concentrate on anything else! That is OK. Give yourself permission to let other tasks go, even if it is an impact on your business. Your life and the life of your loved ones is most important!
Obviously, I am speaking in generalities, but remember that very few problems are truly unique. Someone has gone through this and can guide you. Talking to a lawyer, clergy, a mentor, someone in your network can help you get through your issue more easily than if you were to navigate it yourself. Never be ashamed to ask for help! Ever. That’s the first stop of addressing your issues: facing them head on and working towards a solution.
Perspective Is Everything
Again – remember that truly unique situations are rare. The next thing you should do is take a deep breath and remember that others have walked this path before you – and have survived! You will too.
Do not get me wrong: I am not saying, “suck it up, buttercup!” Knowing that others have survived can give you hope. It may also take your issue and bring it down from defcon 1, which gives you some comfort that you are not as doomed as you think. Yes, it definitely helps to know that you are not the only one! There is also a solution out there – it may not be the one you are hoping for, but it is NOT the end of the world. No matter your problem, I promise that someone has gone through the worst and bounced back to maybe even being a better and stronger person! Whether you know these folks personally or just read about them in a book or article online – look to those people to give you comfort that you will get through this.
So many of us have issues that have happened in the past, and we let our hurt and anger about it prevent us from living in the present and moving forward. Lama Surya Das says forgiveness “means letting go of the hope for a better past”. It doesn’t matter if that person acknowledges their behavior or is even sorry. Forgiving others is about YOU, not them!
But the person you have to forgive the most? YOU. Yes, you've made mistakes in the past. Yes, you “shoulda woulda coulda”. We all have. But the past is the past — you can't change it. What can you do? Move forward. We are often our own worst enemies Forgive yourself for the things you've done to others and to yourself. Make amends, if appropriate, but move on — and make a better life for yourself in the present and future.
Take It Day By Day
There are times when all you can do is take it day by day. Or minute by minute. Know that whatever you are going through, you will get through it! Prioritize your tasks and do what's most important. Some things may not get done. That's life! Move ahead. You will find that if you truly do what's most important, then you will have less issues and problems as time moves on. Life gets a little easier. Not managing your time and issues is making the problem worse. It will get better — the “sun will come out tomorrow”.
Try to take a moment for self care. Sometimes you can only take 5 minutes. You may be lucky enough to have an hour, or half a day! Take time to slow things down a little bit. Meditate. Listen to or read something motivational.
Or, watch this video. I hope it helps you.
I hope this helps you. If you know someone who is facing a bit of adversity in their lives, please share. Comment, and let me know what you think!
To Your Victory,
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